Most often, it’s movie stars and sports superstars who have a very high social value. A short-cut to assuming the persona of someone with a high social value is to simply pretend that you’re James Bond, Angelina Jolie or the hottest football, baseball or basketball star at the moment. Silly as it may sound, doing this gets your brain into the right mode to make you aware of how you behave differently than normal. It can be useful for being more conscious of your behavior. However, you need to have a deeper understanding of social value to be able to implement it as a permanent part of your personality. High social value is most often attractive, but not always. In this text, I will explain why.
1. You Are Non-Reactive
Being non-reactive means not reacting emotionally to how others interact with you. If someone yells at you or accuses you of something, you remain emotionally indifferent. Not only are you non-reactive to other people, but also to the situation. If you are in a stressful environment, you stay calm. If problems occur, you do not become bitter or angry.
2. You Solve Problems
Related to being non-reactive, rather than merely complaining about problems that occur, you accept and solve them. For instance, let’s say you’re travelling and it turns out you just missed your flight home. A common reaction would be to become frustrated or sad, perhaps hoping some kind of miracle might take place so that everything turns out well. A high value person on the other hand shows no reaction to what has happened. This person takes the lead in a group in a natural way. He or she approaches the problem in a non-emotional way, and proactively does whatever it takes to solve it.
3. You are a Leader
High social value people are the leaders of their group. They obtain this position naturally and easily. This means you can’t and shouldn’t try to force yourself into having a certain position in the group. Becoming a leader is a process that should take place naturally – If you act in the right way, people will want you to lead them. A good way to become a leader is to stay non reactive. Following evolutionary examples, a non-reactive person is perceived as a safe choice as a leader, because their behavior won’t be unpredictable.
4. You act Self-Confident
High value people don’t appear nervous, but instead have a high level of self confidence. This can be accomplished in different ways. One method is to build up a confidence over years of life experience. Another way is to act in a way that appears relaxed and calm.
Mistakes when Increasing Social Value
There is a big danger involved with trying to increase social value. High value people risk being perceived as arrogant or obnoxious. Therefore, the more high value you become the more kind towards others you must become as well. A kind, high value person easily becomes popular, such as George Clooney or Paul Newman. A less kind and considerate high value person can instead become disliked by many, because they’re perceived as selfish and self-serving. One example of this is Donald Trump. Your social value amplifies your behavior.
Practicing high value and kindness is a win/win. You will enjoy becoming more popular among others, and others will enjoy being around you as well.